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September brought me to my knees and forced me to pray.

What I’ve realized is that there exists a certain breed of pain that demands you do nothing but experience it raw — like there just comes a point where an experience simply cannot be buffered. 

It’s cute of us to think it can be. 

More distractions, more novelty, more anything to make you forget, until you realize this one is different and you can’t 

Can’t run, can’t shield yourself, can’t entertain yourself, can’t distract yourself, can’t delude yourself. 

So in the most harrowing moments, you commit yourself instead to staying put, suspended and present, feeling like you’re being boiled alive — and it’s right there that you encounter truth and tenderness. 

We talk about the present moment like it’s this thing that will elevate us above the stories and thus our pain — but really it’s a portal into it. 

My loneliness, despair, fear, anger, jealousy, pain — when I’ve just sat there and let it beat me to a pulp, what remains is tender and sweet. What I ultimately get is a good honest look at my heart. 

I’ve put a lot of effort into remaining constantly busy and stimulated by something or someone or someplace so that my heart would never get to take the stage and be witnessed.

September was different. I did a whole lot of nothing but sitting with it — existing on what felt like the edge of my own destruction — and in doing so, learned to finally just witness my pain with compassion instead of trying to fix it. 

Turns out, I can be with what’s happening and not dissociate — but it’s a matter of how honest and brave I really want to be.

There is truth in every ordinary moment. The deepest work you’ll ever do on yourself would probably not make for a good social media share. The work is at home on your living room couch, in relation to ourselves and the people who know us and love us enough to hold us accountable. The work is in your car on your lunch break, letting it wash over you.

But again, it’s a matter of how brave and honest you’re willing to be. 

I’ve got something to say and I’m feeling inspired by a conversation I had with a client recently. 

Since we started working together 2 months ago, she’s seen rapid gains in strength, endurance, movement quality, confidence in training, etc — but she found herself hung up on the fact that an old pair of jeans are still too tight.

She told me that simply getting rid of the jeans that no longer fit well would feel like defeat, like admitting to herself she’d never fit into them again. 

This is something that I’m sure many of you are familiar with, unfortunately. There’s so, so much to unpack in this seemingly trivial, common experience. But I only have 30 minutes to write, so we’ll  just scratch the surface. 

Body fluctuations are a natural, beautiful part of the human experience. 

(say it with me now)

Body fluctuations are a natural, beautiful part of the human experience. 

A body in flux is a body contracting and expanding through the ups and downs of life, through varying priorities and seasons

— all of which is beautiful and allowed.

(and anyone telling you otherwise probably needs to go spend some time in nature and think about what really matters)

You are fully capable of living out your core values at Size X as you are at Size Y.

And if you are truly prioritizing your wellbeing — honoring your body’s cues, exercising to be stronger, eating nutrient dense foods, resting, all the good things — could you accept your body as it looks in response to those good things, even if you never lost another pound?

It is so freakin valid to feel this way about your changing body. We live in a world that profits majorly off people feeling bad about their appearance. It’s not your fault. You’re swimming upstream by questioning and acting in opposition to it. 

Try to view these moments of body dissatisfaction as a distraction from your life force, purpose, vitality. 

The band-aid response to this kind of experience is often to hyper-focus on some temporary distraction and brief sense of control. Clean it up, dial it in, exercise more than usual, pay a lot of money for some temporary “fix”. Hardly ever sustainable, hardly ever aligned with your values, hardly ever getting to the root of it. 
 

A more productive way to go about this is to really reflect and rewire the thoughts you have in relation to your appearance. Especially if you find yourself comparing the body you’re in now to a past version with old photos, old clothes, etc… 

Think about it: 

• What was the most special thing about that time? Was it my body being smaller? 

• How do I want to remember that season? How do I want to remember the season I’m in now? 

• What is my body today actually stopping me from doing? Can I enjoy my life in the same way now? Can I love and be loved? 

• Am I supposed to fit into clothes, or are clothes supposed to fit onto me? 
   

I hope you can anchor into self-acceptance and compassion for the version of you that is here today, and wear clothes that are comfortable on your body in the form it takes right now. 

That’s all for today.

Love you!

Sofia 

Last week, a client asked me this question:

“How can I improve my confidence? There are certain things I feel fairly confident at, but then I get in front of people or a group and just get so incredibly nervous, I lose all my confidence”. 

It got me thinking (obviously, because I needed to draft up a response) … 

I am certainly no expert in confidence. I could be the one asking this question, but instead I’m over here trying to answer it. Felt a bit silly, but I digress.

What I’ve learned through personal experience is this: Reps, reps, reps. You need evidence that you are person you want/know yourself to be, and you need to be proactive about putting yourself in situations that give you the opportunity to rise up.

Oftentimes we expect ourselves to be super confident in a realm that we just don’t have that much experience in, and we’ve got to consider all the layers of said realm. There’s an entirely new dimension added to something when you’re now expected to display it, teach it, prove your authority on it. You’ve now taken this thing — that perhaps was previously just between you and it — and opened the relationship. That can be scary, and your nerves are so, so valid. 

There’s a quote by Susan David (I think) that says “courage is fear walking” and that’s the meat of it. 

Courage is the door to confidence, not fearlessness. Courage and fear are linked. One holds your right hand, the other holds your left, the three of you walk into the woods together.

The more you feel that fear grip your hand & choose to walk forward anyway, your perception of self transforms. You start to build self-trust, an internally perceived resilience, evidence that you can and should be confident, because you’ve felt like this before and did the thing and lived to tell the tale. 

I think the best way to build confidence is to keep dusting yourself off, even if you just completely ate shit, and get back out there. If something feels threatening to a fragile sense of confidence that relies on you always doing well, and knowing you will do well, you should probably do that thing.

It’s fear and nerves and ego banging down the door, and instead of hiding in the corner waiting for it to come get you, you open the door and say hello, how can I help you

You’re allowed to (and should) do things nervous and afraid. The more exposure you have to a nerve-wracking environment, the less nerve-wracking it will be over time.
 

And maybe consider reframing how you perceive a stress response — both in your mind and in your physical body. 

If you get nervous before something and notice your HR increases, you’re hyperventilating a little, sweating, etc., instead of perceiving those sensations as bad, or as a sign that you shouldn’t be doing something, try to view them as physiological aids.
“This is just my body trying to heighten my state of arousal & prepare me for something challenging, something that’s important to me”

I can tell that you really care about things and put a lot of pressure on yourself to do well. Maybe, in these moments of self-doubt and fear, you need courage and tenacity, not confidence. 

Confidence will come — but even if it doesn’t, courage and tenacity are your constant companions. 

Peace & Love, 

Sofia 

A little over a year ago (14 months), I quit my job as a Wildland Firefighter to pursue my coaching business full-time. Since then, I have worked with nearly 100 clients, learned a ton about myself and my craft and others and the world, made lasting connections, invested a lot of money, had countless mental breakdowns… and more!

I’ve also had the freedom to do a lot of things that I certainly would not have been able to in my previous job. I’ve been available and flexible for the first time ever in my adult life.

There is a lot of freedom in being your own boss. 

But I’ve had countless conversations with people over the last year who feel this weird societal pressure to become entrepreneurs. 

As if being W-2’d is a cardinal sin. 

As if they must not be driven enough or passionate enough if they haven’t “broken out of the matrix” yet.

I hate to break it to you, but entrepreneurship is still part of the matrix babe 

Sure, there’s freedom in quitting your job to start a business. 

But there’s a freedom that you lose, too. Freedom that you aren’t even aware of until it’s gone.

The freedom to clock the f*ck out and have some separation between “work me” and “me”. 

The freedom of not having to do it alone. The freedom of celebrating the good stuff and commiserating/enduring the bad stuff… with other people. 

The freedom of knowing how much money you’ll make each month. 

The freedom of not having to post on social media if you don’t feel like it, without it being like.. detrimental to your marketing/lead generation.

The freedom of not constantly thinking about your business. Constantly. It’s always there. 

Starting and building and sustaining your own business can be lonely, unsure, expensive, and time-consuming. It can also be the greatest thing you ever did. 

But let’s acknowledge the beauty of being an invaluable cornerstone of a team. Community is hard to come by these days. 

There is so much power in being someone’s favorite coworker. Millions of someone’s favorite coworkers are probably the only thing keeping this shit going. 

Anyway, all this to say — entrepreneurship is not inherently a better life, just a different one. Believe that. 

Take inventory of your gut instincts/inner knowing, of your goals, of the life you envision for yourself and know that there is no right or wrong way. 

It is beautiful and okay to have a job that provides you financial stability, work/life separation, good benefits, etc… even if it doesn’t set your heart ablaze. 

Your passions don’t always need to be monetized — and sometimes that means-to-an-end job is what grants you the resources and separation and creative freedom to engage in things without pressure of how it will be perceived or whether or not it will make you any money. 

Whatever you choose to do in life, your passions can be just that — or they can be a way to pay rent. Both can be part of your colorful and authentic story, and joy is yours to have either way.

Peace & Love, 

Sofia 

“I’ll never be able to do a pull-up!” – you, maybe
 

Well, certainly not with that attitude. 

But seriously, the road to your first pull-up can be a long & disheartening one. Most people don’t know what/how to train and have delusional expectations of how quickly they should be progressing. 

However, I do believe that most everyone is capable of performing a strict pull-up. It may take some people longer than others, depending on strength, body weight, limb lengths, and other factors… but it’s possible, nonetheless. 
 

It took me a full year to go from 0 to 1 pull-up, and I was doing multiple sets, at or near failure, nearly every day. I’m not recommending that approach, but just trying to put things into perspective. If you’ve been at it for 4 months with no pull-up in sight, it’s fine. Keep going. 

But first, make sure you have a general understanding of what it takes to get stronger: 

INTENSITY — you could have the perfect exercises to build pull-up strength, but if you’re not taking those moves at least 1-2 reps shy of failure (and sometimes testing them all the way to failure) you’re not sending a loud enough signal to your body to get stronger. With any movement you’re trying to strengthen, if you’re consistently leaving 5 reps on the table because “it already burns”, you’re going to be disappointed with your progress. 

FREQUENCY — If you’re practicing pull-ups once a week, or just “when you feel like it”, your progress will reflect that. You won’t see noticeable gains, especially with a challenging movement like pull-ups, with a couple sets per week and no structure to your training. Have a routine in place that genuinely challenges you 3x/week, and don’t be afraid to just practice the skill of the pull-up between those sessions (doing an easy set of band-assisted with 2 or 3 reps in reserve, for example) 

VARIETY OF REP RANGES — 3 sets of 10 is great, but if you’re only operating within that range, you’re leaving a lot on the table. Don’t be afraid to test out the lowest resistance band & go for lower reps, like 1-5. Training with lower rep ranges will improve your muscles’ ability to contract hard… and after all, you are training for your first pull-up, which is essentially a 1 rep max. 

PATIENCE — building strength requires consistent, real effort for a long period of time. Relax into the process.

Now, here are a few of my favorite exercises to progress towards your first pull-up. Search any of these on YouTube & you’ll find them:

Passive & active hangs: pull-ups require a lot of grip/hanging strength, so it would benefit you to increase how long you can grip the bar. Passively hanging = shoulders relaxed, everything fully extended. Active hanging = incorporating some shrugging/retraction of your shoulder blades (AKA a scap pull-up)

Feet assisted pull-ups: ensure you keep your hips under your chest (vertical torso position) 

Once you’re busting out the feet assist with no problem, try performing Rack Chins (similar concept, but with less lower body assistance).

Band assisted pull-ups: the problem with bands is that they assist you at the toughest part of the rep (the bottom), so choose a thickness that really challenges you to use your own strength coming up as opposed to letting it do half the work for you. Don’t be afraid of lower rep ranges! 

Isometric holds: Jump to chin over bar & hold that top position as long as you can — or get yourself to the 1/2 pull-up position (arms at 90°) and hold as long as you can. 

Negatives/eccentrics: jump to that chin over bar position, and then take as long as you can lowering yourself to the bottom. Rest, then perform another slow rep. Once you’re able to do several good, slow reps, start adding weight! A 5# medicine ball or dumbbell between the legs can add a really nice challenge for these & are a great way to ensure you’re progressing. 
 

This is just scratching the surface, but I hope it’s helpful! Don’t hesitate to reply to this email if you have any questions. 

& don’t give up 🙂

– Sofia

I’m gonna be real with you guys, I’ve been struggling for what feels like the entire month of May. It’s been really really difficult to access joy, safety, self-compassion, connection… all the good things that usually keep me going. 

But as of like, yesterday, I’m catching glimpses of the sun again — feeling moments of warmth and optimism and relief. 

So it goes.

There’s always good and there’s always bad and there’s always ease and there’s always struggle and that’s just life, right? 

Anyway, I wanted to share something with you that keeps me getting out of bed, moving another 5 yards and then another, when my inner world feels colorless. 

I have a special toolkit. 

It’s a physical list that I’ve been iterating for over a year now titled “Things that always make you feel at least 1% better”. 

The list has a variety of lower and higher hanging fruit, but the common thread is that they all work, for me, consistently. 

Plus something in small handwriting like “I know you want to rot in bed and you’re rolling your eyes at this but please just give one of these things a shot” because I know myself. 

MY LIST OF THINGS THAT ALWAYS MAKE ME FEEL AT LEAST 1% BETTER: 

• Hugs
• Cuddling my dog
• Being in nature, even just sitting in a local park
• Watching the sunset, especially from the beach
• Hot tea, on the couch, with my favorite blanket
• Billie Holiday (in general, emotional support music)
• Breathwork or meditations that take 3 minutes or less
• Putting my face in a bowl of ice water (3 x 15sec) I know it sounds weird, but it does things
• Closing my eyes and sitting in direct sunlight like a reptile
• Scream/crying in my car
• Jiu Jitsu, running, lifting
• If I absolutely cannot be bothered with the above, moving my body in some way, even just a walk around the block
• Dancing to some go-to jams, even if for the first minute it feels like the most forced thing I’ve ever done in my entire life
• Blowing bubbles with my dog. He tries to eat them and it’s cute. 
• Curb Your Enthusiasm (this is my emotional support show)
• Writing gratitude lists or a persuasive essay disproving whatever dismal story I’m telling myself
• FaceTiming my friends… or ideally actually spending time with them. Especially the friends who I can just “be” with, rather than always having to “do” with — if that makes sense. 
• Swimming
• Microdosing
• Cooking a new recipe. Nothing too crazy though. 
• Reading my book while my dog plays at the dog park. 
• Going to bed earlier than normal
• Eating nutrient dense foods, and enough of them

If you read that, I love you. 

It would make me so happy if you commented and told me something(s) in your personal toolkit. I’m curious. 🙂

Peace & Love, 

Sofia Huston

If you’re trying to optimize your performance (get stronger better faster stronger), then feeding yourself properly & ensuring you get adequate nutrients is JUST as important as training. 

I’m sure you already knew that.

EQUALLY important, however, is your relationship to food & body (how you FEEL about how you eat and what you make it mean about you)

So, maybe you’ve heard it would benefit you as an athlete to eat enough protein, carbs, fats, fiber… and you want to track your intakes to ensure you’re eating ENOUGH of each nutrient to perform and feel your best… But don’t want to become numbers-obsessed or restrictive in the process. 

Here are some ideas, some food for thought, some things to chew on (puns totally intended):

1. MINIMUMS, not MAXIMUMS: Rather than focusing on staying below a certain number each day, view and set your C/P/F/F as minimum intakes needed to function and feel your best. View these numbers as helpful suggestions and reminders to learn what works for your body, not rigid limits to make you sad. 
2. REFRAME: Instead of “I can’t eat more than this”, how about “When I eat enough carbs, my energy & intensity in training is better”… “When I eat enough protein, my recovery is better”… “When I eat enough dietary fat, my satiation & satisfaction & hormonal health is better” … “When I eat enough fiber, my digestion is better” 
3. EXPECT VARIETY FROM YOURSELF, NOT PERFECTION: Remember that you are a human being with varying inputs and outputs and hormonal fluctuations and seasons and training intensities and priorities and values and… and… and… Your nutrition can and should reflect that. Some days you’ll need more or less food than other days. 
4. TAKE DAYS OFF: What if I told you… you don’t have to track every single day to see the benefits. You could track intakes on your harder/longer training days, and then used untracked days as opportunities to cue into your body’s hunger & fullness, just being intentional about regular feeding & eating foods that make you feel good in your body. 
5. TRACKING IS A TOOL, NOT A LIFESTYLE: If that makes you mad, lollll. At some point or another you should have a plan to transition away from tracking. You can utilize it to learn about fueling your body properly, eventually you’re gonna want that time/energy back (and to feel confident listening to your body while incorporating what you learned).

So, if you choose to track because it helps you get the nutrition your body needs, power to you. 

If you choose not to track because of whatever personal-and-totally-valid reason, power to you. 

Whatever you do, try to stay aligned with your body’s natural wisdom (cues, energy levels, digestion, etc) while also filtering everything through your personal values… 

… So you can continue directing your precious mental energy to the areas that matter most to you! 

And if you’re seeking support with nutrition and training to be your strongest, most vibrant self, reply to this email or click the link below for my 1:1 coaching application. 

Peace & Love, 

Sofia

Yesterday I had a conversation with one of my clients about pushing past mental blocks and getting better at truly giving hard efforts your all, overcoming mental weakness, and digging deeper. 

She really wants to make sure she’s performing close to her potential (don’t we all). 

The great news is that although you may think mental fortitude/pain tolerance is some innate gift, it’s actually pretty trainable.Neuroplasticity for the win!

So, here are some tips to strengthen your ability to dig deep, & not knocked on your ass by the first negative thought or wave of fatigue that washes over you: 

1. Utilize sessions that are exceptionally tough as an opportunity to gain awareness of your thought patterns (in a low-risk context): Do you start to negotiate with yourself? Do you anchor to your breath? Do you have mantras that motivate you? Do you try to tune out the discomfort of fatigue or let it consume you? The first step is awareness that there exists a deep well within you to draw from. Set an intention prior: “Today I will be curious about my depth & strength, and my intention is to unlock even just 1% more of myself”. 
2. Visualization! Close your eyes and picture yourself in moments of extreme fatigue. Be very specific in envisioning how you’ll respond. What does your breathing feel like, sound like? What thoughts will be in your mind and how will you allow them to pass through you? What will your body be doing? Will you grimace or smile? How exactly would it look and feel for you to reveal a new layer of strength?
3. Leverage less-than-ideal conditions: especially if you’re an athlete who will, at some point, be expected to perform in extreme heat or cold, rain, snow, darkness, while sleep-deprived, etc. These are all phenomenal excuses to put off a session, but what if you viewed some occasional “intentional misery” as mental resilience training? Training is a lower-stakes context to experiment with strategies to get over yourself. This will also build you a handy dandy library of evidence that you’re tougher than you might feel in that moment. Remember that one time when things really sucked, just like they do right now, and you got through it?
4. Anchor to your breath and be patient. Try to ground yourself to something in the physical reality, not in your looping thoughts. What do you see? What do you hear? How does it feel to fill your body with oxygen, and how can you manipulate your breathing to serve you best?
5. Break the task at hand into segments. Build a brick wall around each individual 10 minute chunk. Nothing exists outside of that, and then the next, and then the next. 
6. Find a mantra that motivates you. My favorite simple phrase when I really want to give up is “I love this shit”. It sounds silly, but this has gotten me through a lot. I try to be grateful for my body & the opportunity to train it & put it to the test. 

After all, odds are you’re voluntarily training, competing, working this job, etc… 

Keep perspective: you could quit tomorrow and the world will in fact, continue to spin 🙂 

P.S. if you want personalized help with your mindset, programming & nutrition (along with education, community, & more), click the link below for my 1:1 coaching application. 

Peace & Love, 

Sofia Huston

There is a lot of “nutrition advice” online offering up a wide variety of reasons & solutions for your cravings. If you’re willing to try X hack, diet, detox, method, you’ll successfully “manage” or “curb” or “deal with” them!

I want to invite you today to think about your cravings differently.

Let’s first make clear what I mean when I say “cravings”. I’ll define a craving as a powerful desire for something specific (in this case, food), urgent/abnormal in nature. 

First, why do we get cravings??? The answer here is complex and different for everyone! It could be:

•  Physiological (low blood glucose, low energy availability, nutrient deficiency, hormonal), 
• Neurological/Social (emotional, habitual, upbringing, environmental cues, mental restriction of certain foods)
• Reward/Dopamine Response (simple fact that some foods are very enjoyable and we are pleasure-seeking creatures)

So, sugar detox??? Not so fast. 

If you are struggling with intense sugar cravings, for example, it’s best to take an inclusive approach before you go cold turkey on all sweets/processed food. 

Remember, with any approach to nutrition we want to ask, “could I do this forever?”

So, first… 

Are we getting enough of each nutrient? Macros? Micros? Enough food in general? Are we hydrated? Are we sleeping well/managing stress? Where are we in our cycle & are we actively trying to support ourselves through it? What’s going on emotionally, and is sugar our go-to tool for emotional regulation?

Beyond any of that… maybe you are eating enough, you’re not physically or mentally restricting, you’re sleeping well, your stress levels are managed, you’re hydrated… and you STILL get cravings. ….??????!!!!!!!!!!! 

Sometimes, you’re just a human being who wants a treat. It’s that simple. You don’t need to pathologize your cravings and make them mean more than they do. This can create a lot of internal friction with food, which is the opposite of what we want.

Take a minute to reflect:

• Are your cravings really a problem? 
• Or are you just making them out to be a problem? 
• What do your cravings mean to you? 
• What does the voice in your head say to you/about you when you notice a craving come up? 
• If you are craving something, what is your initial response? – honor it? Or try to suppress it/manage it/shut it down? 
• What is the fear around honoring it? What do you think will happen? 
• Why do you think that?

What is it that’s blocking your unconditional permission to eat and enjoy food?

Allowing yourself to have something mindfully and move on will reduce food preoccupation, which is better for your health, life, mind, career, etc. (more mental energy to do things that matter).

All that said, just because you have a craving, doesn’t mean you need to act on it. 

Yes, unconditional permission to eat! AND also the ability to make a decision w/ context about whether or not eating something is a good decision for you OVERALL (you now, you an hour from now, you tomorrow, etc.) – How will all these versions of you feel? Let the jury vote. 

But most importantly, try to change how you talk/think about your cravings/mental hunger. Do you view it as hunger that “shouldn’t be there”? As gluttony? Desire for “too much”? Shame? 

Rather than judging or fighting or shaming your cravings, try to have a curious conversation with them:

• What’s going on for me right now? 
• What are my needs and are they being met? 
• How am I speaking to myself? 
• What is the empowering choice for me to make right now? (empowering does not equal punishing)

Peace & Love, 

Sofia Huston

If asked “how do you feel about your body?”, what is your first response?

Perhaps your answer is a slew of features/forms you’d like to change — the things you don’t want people to see when they look at you.

Perhaps you’re able to intermix things you’re grateful for, the body ideals you feel lucky to possess – the things you want people to see when they look at you.

Perhaps, after some thought, you shifted to the functional qualities of your body: what it allows you to do, how it allows you to feel…

But was your initial response concerned mostly with how your body is perceived/judged by the outside world? Do you privilege an external view of your body over your own decades-old, lived & felt experience of it?

Poor body image/body preoccupation is an enormous barrier to our potential as human beings, our ability to self-actualize. You can be confident & successful in many realms, yet still suffer from deep shame around your body shape & size. 

This is a big deal. 

Why? Because that shame & self-objectification, if allowed, will cause you to sacrifice ridiculous amounts of valuable time, energy, and resources to “fix” whatever you feel is not beautiful. 

What if all the time, energy, money, etc. could be diverted elsewhere? 

What could you do with all of that? Who could you be? 

I don’t know about you, but thinking about that makes me sad and mad. 

The reason so many people are unhappy with their bodies is due to a focus on body IMAGE over body EXPERIENCE. 

Rather than experiencing our bodies from the inside, we are chronically existing as outside monitors, trying to anticipate the ways our shape/size/appearance will be judged by others. 

We are well versed in being perceived, yet so detached from feeling, being, doing. This is how our worth becomes enmeshed in whether or not we have the abs, the ass, and whatever comes after that (there’s always something).

Would you rather have the “perfect” body, but still despise yourself…? 

Or just… not have those feelings of hating your body ever again? 

Moments of feeling bad about your body do not have to spiral into major investments of energy/time to fix yourself. With a bit of awareness (& lots of practice), they can simply act as reminders to come home to yourself, to get back in the driver’s seat, back in your purpose, back in your body and your life. 

You are staying home from events, you are deleting photos that you will never get back, you aren’t allowing yourself to enjoy the foods you like, you aren’t going swimming (even though you love the water). 

You are so busy policing yourself and asking “what do others see when they look at me” that you are missing your life in real time, disconnected from your joy, your relationships, your intuition, your HEALTH, your strengths, & your contribution.

Next time you start to objectify your own body, just notice it & ask the following:

• Is this distracting me from my higher purpose?
• Is this taking me out of my power?
• Is this supporting me in living a life with minimal regrets about how I allocated my precious energy?

If yes, try to just acknowledge those thoughts as distractions from your job as a living, doing, breathing, being. 

Your body’s appearance is not your value, and you have big things to do here on earth.  

Peace & Love, 

Sofia